I’ve come to believe that going to bars or clubs is actually now the worst way to meet someone. It also can be a waste of money. Even worse, it can also be a complete waste of time in your 20s.
I can’t believe that I have to write this article. This is the most hypocritical piece that I’ll ever post on here. I may even go out to a club after writing this. I’m all for having fun. I just have to open your eyes about going out, meeting people, and personal finance in your 20s.
After writing an entire book on escaping the friend zone as a bet, I’ve heard from all kinds of readers from around the world. I’m constantly amused by the success stories. I can’t really share any of these. I’m also surprised by how much money we can waste on partying in our 20s when there’s so much other fun stuff that we could be doing. I don’t even want to begin trying to calculate how much money I’ve spent on going out.
The worst advice in the world is when some “financial expert” tells you to never go out. That’s just unrealistic and boring. I’m going to show you why going out to clubs to meet women can become a waste of money, how you can save money on partying, and how-to lead a more exciting life without always feeling the need to be at the same club.
Why can going out to clubs be the biggest waste of money and time in your 20s?
“Always do sober what you said you’d do drunk. That will teach you to keep your mouth shut.” — Ernest Hemingway
If you’re drinking and commuting to the bar, you’re looking at spending some decent money. A drink is anywhere from $5-10. You got your cover, Uber ride, coat check, tips, and some late night grub. The expenses add up real fast. You can easily spend $100 or more on a night out. Spending $200 for a memorable night is fine if you can afford it. It’s not such a wise move if your finances aren’t where they should be.
Why going to clubs to meet girls can be the biggest waste of money in your 20s
Whenever I get hardcore about my traveling I put all of my new savings into a separate account. I skip the nights out and focus on making the trip an epic one. There’s so much that you can do with the money you save from not going to the same clubs. Trust me, hanging out in Medellin, Colombia, on a Wednesday night in February is more exciting than waiting in line at some club in the winter on a Friday night.
You think that you’re going to meet the woman of your dreams in a night club. All you can think about is how badly you want to meet someone. You end up forgetting to have fun. I have friends who are so outcome focused that I don’t think they ever have fun. All they want to do is meet girls. I get it. We all do. This isn’t fun though. The whole goal of going out is to have a blast after a long week.
A retired DJ was telling me this at a birthday party. I didn’t want to iamnaughty app believe it. I looked around and couldn’t argue with him. Most people were on their phones posting about how much fun they were having. I know this because many of my friends were doing this. I know for a fact that they didn’t have fun because they told me they weren’t having fun. For some reason they couldn’t wait to post on social media about how great the night was. You can just share a useless meme if you need content for your social media accounts.